defining moments don't present themselves as such until after the moment is gone. big decisions only seem big in the light of a new day. reliving a defining moment is easy: just think back to a time where everything changed. a time when you no longer were the person you once were. think back and remember a time that, at one time, seemed like nothing special. the big times come and go with a whimper, we only attribute the bang when we look back. foolishly, we live life moment to moment, only looking back when we catch ourselves in the mirror. through the looking glass you see age lines and wisdom. you see that you are no longer the person you once were. so you look back, stare through the mirror, into your past, pinpointing the decision that changed you. reliving a defining moment in your history is something you do when you're in the future. we pretend and present ourselves with these moments as explanations. the truth is there are no defining moments, but a lifetime of definitions.